The Benefit of Removing Toxic People from your Life

The people we surround ourselves with can have a huge impact on our emotions and our positivity in life. Who we chose to spend our time with will either have a positive impact or a negative impact on our lives. Making the conscious choice to surround ourselves with people who lift us up is the key to living a healthier life.

We can sometimes get sucked into toxic relationships without even realizing that we are spending our time with a toxic person. It can be very easy to become ensnared in their negativity. It can sometimes take years to extract yourself from a toxic person. Because we form a bond of love with a person, it can be a difficult task to let go. But just because we love or care about someone doesn't mean that the love is But letting go can be the best thing for a person's life.

The first step to letting these people go is to identify the people that are toxic to your life. These are the people in your life that will bring you down to their negative level. They work hard to make sure that those closest to them are always dragged down to their level. There is a spectrum of toxicity that exists in many different kinds of people so identifying those people in your life that are truly toxic is very important. Here are the key toxic traits to watch out for:

1. People who want to control you: These people are not as easy to spot. The control is never overt and it comes slowly over time. It is more of a manipulation tactic that allows a person to slowly gain control over another person. It always starts off by gaining another individual's trust and then the exploit that trust by controlling another person's decisions.

2. People who disregard your personal boundaries: Toxic people will not respect your limits. You will ask them to stop their behavior but they will continue their bad behavior. Toxic people will get great joy in disrespecting another's boundaries.

3.  People who love to play the victim: Toxic people also love to be the victim. They are always looking to blame others for the downfalls in their life. They never take responsibility for their own actions and will blame others for every little setback that they experience and eventually they will blame you. It is easy to fall into a relationship with this type of toxic person. At first, this toxic person will come to you and talk to you about their problems and it is very easy to sympathize with them. However, soon all their complaints and issues are really the only thing they have to talk about it can be very draining.

4. Jealous people: These type of toxic people never wish for you to succeed in life. They want to see you fail and will enjoy seeing you fail. These type of toxic people will never celebrate your successes and they will secretly wish that you fail every time.

5. People who are very self-centered: Many times these types of people seem to care about you but slowly over time, they manage to make it all about them. It becomes about what they want and their problems. They do not want to make time for you. Their life becomes your life. They do not care about your life or your issues.

Once you have identified these toxic people with their posionous behavioral traits, it is important to remove yourself from their life as quickly as possible. Here are tips for the best way to remove yourself from the toxic relationship:

1. It will be a long process to extract these people from your life and it will probably blow up in your face. Toxic people don't understand boundaries and they will push to be in your life. They have learned how to manipulate and take advantage of you and they will not be willing to let go of that relationship without a fight. Be prepared for a battle but stand your ground because ultimately you will be able to remove yourself from this relationship.

2. You also do not owe this person an explanation of why you wish to end the relationship. How you feel about this person is not up for debate and a toxic personality will try to argue with you about your reasons why. Just let them know that you wish not to proceed with a relationship anymore. You are not required to give them an explanation.

3. Block them on social media and block their phone number. Social media provides unfettered access to people and by blocking them you will not be tempted to check in on them. Blocking their phone will stop this person from reaching out to you. Toxic people will try to use their manipulation tactics to integrate themselves into your life again. A clean break must be made in order to truly remove yourself from the situation.

Taking control of your life and getting rid of negativity and toxicity will greatly improve your life. It will be a journey of self-discovery that will be difficult but worth it. Do right by yourself and surround yourself with people who love and support you.






Comments

Popular posts from this blog

The Holistic Approach to Grief

The First Step to Being Thoughtful and Living Authentically